1. Anonymous said: Hi, I was wondering why you still identify as a feminist despite it's many problems? I don't mean this as a personal attack or anything, just a genuine question.

    schaka:

    princessoffloral:

    Most feminists that I’ve met in person are lovely, and genuinely do want equality. Most disagreements I’ve had with them are more out of ignorance of certain issues rather than maliciousness towards men. We were all there once and I don’t think it’s very fair to fault someone for spreading x harmful and inaccurate statistic when they genuinely think it’s true. The problem is more when it’s politely pointed out to them and then they start trying to justify it. I also find it’s much easier to get people to listen to you when you use the feminist label. I guess at the end of the day I’m still optimistic about the movement, but really, whatever label you use doesn’t matter nearly as much as what you do under it.

    I wouldn’t ever wanted to identify with ignorant people. But I guess I get what you said about people willing to listen if you use the feminist label. There are millions who will just dismiss you on the basis of not using it, even if what you have to say is essentially feminist (by dictionary definition or otherwise).

    Those are largely my reasons. I’ve always said that I care a lot more about what somebody’s beliefs are than what label they give them, and so I’m willing to adopt any label that technically fits if it allows us to skip the label vs label debate and actually tackle the real issues. It definitely facilitates communication with the otherwise narrow-minded.

    I also think that a lot of what we say about feminism can be applied to humanity as a whole. The vast majority of political or religious groups are nasty, dogmatic, exclusionary, and so on. Most people are at least in some way rude or problematic, and when they mass together under a banner they often learn to think for themselves in that echo chamber. Nevertheless, I don’t divorce myself from humanity because I know that individual humans are often okay and open-minded when you get them one-on-one in person, and feminists aren’t all that different.

    There are also a lot good feminists who give me faith, with good intentions even if they can sometimes can swept along in bandwagons and need a personal confrontation to set them straight. In calling myself a feminist, I increase that number, and can work to improve the movement from the inside just by acting as a part of it, rather than standing on the sidelines and criticising its collapse. I have about as much faith for feminism as I do for human civilisation. Both have their problems, but they also have a spark of goodness inside them that can be nurtured, and for me that’s a reason to not give up quite yet.

     
  2. theofficialnorthkorea:

    electricrain:

    columnnotes:

    sktagg23:

    I am SICK and TIRED of people objecting to seeing women using their breasts for what they are actually for. BREASTFEEDING IS NOT VULGAR OR OBSCENE.

    I support breastfeeding all the way, even if it is in public.

    And the award winning one:

    the second to last one though

    (via misanthropymermaid)

     

  3. Anonymous said: u take a lot of selfies. do u think ur pretty or smoething? ur not

    twerkingderp:

    fluffy-moose:

    sarahisnotonice:

    bottomupcas:

    hi there, anon. i didn’t realize i took a lot of selfies. thanks for the info. so, your question was whether i think i’m pretty. you already answered that no, i am not. 

    and i have to agree, anon. i don’t think i’m pretty bc i’m not.

    i’m fat.

    image

    i always have a double chin.

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    i constantly look like i haven’t slept in a week bc of my dark circles

    and, i always look sunburnt. idfk why

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    i have this white line across my nose that makeup can’t cover up 

    image

    i have tons of wrinkles on my forehead. like what the hell? i’m 25

    also, it’s the size of fucking texas

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    i still don’t know how to smile in pictures bc i hate my fucking teeth

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    my feet are flat. my hips are huge. my boobs are weird. i am covered in stretch marks. my voice is grating. my ears stick out two miles from my head. i am always fucking sweating and i’ve been asked if i was pregnant more times than i can count. 

    so, you’re right. i’m not pretty. i can’t stand the way i look.

    which is why it’s so fucking important that i post “a lot” of selfies. bc, anon, you’d better fucking believe that if i look in the mirror that day and don’t cringe, i’m gonna take a fucking picture to save that tiny little second. and GOD FORBID i show the world that i posses a little self love every once in a fucking while. 

    TO ANYONE READING THIS: DON’T EVER LET SOMEONE MAKE YOU FEEL ASHAMED FOR LIKING THE WAY YOU LOOK—EVEN IF IT’S JUST FOR A SECOND. IF YOU LOOK NICE, YOU TAKE THAT FUCKING SELFIE AND YOU SHOW IT TO THE GOD DAMN WORLD BC THEY DESERVE TO SEE THE GOD/GODDESS YOU ARE!

    that beard finally coming in? go ahead, bro. take a selfie.

    you finally got that piercing you’ve been wanting? not really my style, but you’re fucking rocking it. take a selfie.

    your boobs look awesome in that shirt? take a selfie.

    you finally lose or gain that weight you’ve been working on? take a selfie.

    your eyeliner look awesome? your new sunglasses make you look like  a celebrity avoiding the paparazzi? you killing that tux? you feel a tiny, rare level of self love? you always on a high level of self love? you just like your face? 

    TAKE A MOTHAFUCKING SELFIE!

    thanks for the question, anon. this one’s for you.

    image

    i thinks shes beautiful in my opinion 

    This girl is my hero.

    bless

     

    1. 12-year-old girl: I don't want kids when I grow up.
    2. Society: You'll change your mind when you get older. You're only 12. You're too young to know what you want.
    3. 16-year-old girl: I'm pregnant.
    4. Society: How could you be so stupid? Do you know anything about safe sex? You should be ashamed.
    5. 20-year-old woman: I'm a single mother with an infant son.
    6. Society: You should've gone to college first. You need a stable career before you can support a child.
    7. 33-year-old woman: I'm married and my spouse and I both have stable careers. I have two young daughters now.
    8. Society: You're not staying home? Who's going to take care of them? You're just going to put them in day care while you work? That's selfish of you. You can't expect to raise decent kids with a full-time job.
    9. 45-year-old woman: I just had my first child.
    10. Society: Why would you have a child when you're that old? Do you realize the health risks of being pregnant at your age? When your kid is a teenager you'll be a senior citizen. That's inconsiderate of you.
    11. 60-year-old woman: I haven't had any children.
    12. Society: Your life must be so unfulfilling. Is there something wrong with you? Why didn't you want kids? How strange.
     

  4. "

    A FAT LITTLE GIRL
    is eight years old, she’s got pink cheeks that her grandmother calls chubby. She wants a second cookie but her aunt says “you’ll get huge if you keep eating.” She wants a dress and the woman in the changing room says “she’ll probably need a large in that.” She wants to have dessert and her waiter says “After all that dinner you just had? You must be really hungry!” and her parents laugh.

    A FAT LITTLE GIRL
    is eleven and she is picked second-to-last in gym class. She watches a cartoon and sees that everyone who is annoying is drawn with a big wide body, all sweaty and panting. At night she dreams she is swelling like the ocean over seabeds. When she wakes up, she skips school.

    A FAT LITTLE GIRL
    is thirteen and her friends are stick-thin ballerinas with valleys between their hipbones. She is instead developing the wide curves of her mother. She says she is thick but her friends argue that she’s “muscular” and for some reason this hurts worse than just admitting that she jiggles when she walks and she’ll never be a dancer. Eating seconds of anything feels like she’s breaking some unspoken rule. The word “indulgent” starts to go along with “food.”

    A FAT LITTLE GIRL
    is fourteen and she has stopped drinking soda and juice because they bloat you. She always takes the stairs. She fidgets when she has to sit still. Whenever she goes out for ice cream, she leaves half at the bottom - but someone else always leaves more and she feels like she’s falling. She pretends to like salad more than she does. She feels eyes burrowing through her body while she eats lunch. Kate Moss tells her nothing tastes as good as skinny feels, but she just feels like she is wilting.

    A FAT LITTLE GIRL
    is fifteen the first time her father says “you’re getting gaunt.” She rolls her eyes. She eats one meal a day but thinks she stays the same size. Every time she picks up a brownie she thinks of the people she sees on t.v. and every time she has cake, she thinks of the one million magazine articles on restricting calories. She used to have no idea a flat stomach was supposed to be beautiful until she saw advice on how to achieve it. She cuts back on everything. She controls. They tell her she’s getting too thin but she doesn’t believe it.

    A FAT LITTLE GIRL
    is sixteen and tearing herself into shreds in order for a thigh gap big enough to hush the screams in her head. She doesn’t “indulge,” ever. She can’t go out with friends, they expect her to eat. She damns her sweet tooth directly to hell. It’s coffee for breakfast and tea for lunch and if there’s dance that evening, two cups of water and then maybe an apple. She lies all the time until she thinks the words will rot her teeth. She dreams about food when she sleeps. Her aunt begs her to eat anything, even just a small cookie. They say, “One bite won’t make you fat, will it, darling?”

    A FAT LITTLE GIRL
    is seventeen and too sick to go to prom because she can’t stand up for very long. She thinks she wouldn’t look good in a dress anyway. Her nails are blue and not because they are painted. Her hair is too thin to do anything with. She’s tired all the time and always distracted. She once absently mentions the caloric value of grapes to the boy she is with and he looks at her like she’s gone insane and in that moment she realizes most people don’t have numbers constantly scrolling in their heads. She swallows hard and tries to figure out where it all went wrong, why more than a granola bar for a meal makes her feel sick, why she tastes disease and courts with death. She misses sleep. She misses being able to dream. She misses being herself instead of just being empty.

    A FAT LITTLE GIRL
    is twenty and writes poetry and is a healthy weight and still fights down the voices every single day. She puts food in her mouth and sometimes cries about it but more and more often feels good, feels balanced. Her cheeks are pink and they are chubby and soft and no longer growing slight fur. Her hair is long and it is beautiful. She still picks herself apart in the mirror, but she’s starting to get better about it. She wears the dress she likes even if it only fits her in a large and she doesn’t feel like a failure for it. She is falling in love with the fat on her hips.

    She is eating out with friends and not worrying about finding the lowest calorie item on the menu when she hears a mother tell her four year old daughter “You can’t have ice cream, we just had dinner.
    You don’t want to end up as a fat little girl.”

    "
    — 

    Why do we constantly do this to our children? /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)

    daaaaaaamn this hit hard.

    (via jewliankushablancas)

    (via misanthropymermaid)

     

  5. schaka:

    It’s ironic that my most successful post would be about feminism when I don’t even like feminism

    It’s more popular than any of my actual attempts at fourth wave feminism, which is even more confusing.

     

  6. tree-stump-palace:

    whentherestrouble:

    smoochums:

    women grow hair on their boobs and their butts and their legs and their arms and their stomachs and their face and really anywhere their genetics decides to have hair and it is perfectly normal what isnt normal is men who have never touched a razor trying to shame women for not looking like a hairless baby

    important

    shout this loud.

     

  7. schaka:

    fromfrattofeminist:

    schaka:

    What happened to Tumblr’s attempt at fourth wave feminism?
    I don’t see any of that around anymore

    What would a fourth wave look like to you? Because I’m just looking for all of the equality. 

    • Actively calling out transphobia
    • Denouncing the outdated feminist understanding of patriarchy as for men by men
    • Recognizing women’s power in today’s age and even historically and their contribution to the gender binary
    • Moving away from “the wage gap is based on discrimination” and instead actively fighting the root cause by encouraging more young girls to take on higher paying, more stressful jobs
    • Recognizing that the educational system in most countries actively caters to girls and fighting for more gender neutral changes
    • Moving away from the Duluth Model of DV and stop gendering DV as Violence Against Women
    • Denouncing NOW’s opposition to default shared custody, as many fathers cannot afford fighting for their kids in court
    • Actively distancing yourself from third wave feminism

    We’re still around, don’t worry.

    (via schaka)

     

  8. "Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength."
    — 

    G.D Anderson  (via blissful-unawareness)

    I say yes to feminism man

    (via libre-comme-lart)

    (Source: saperathebook, via thatpost-modernfeminist)

     

  9. roxanathegreat said: Here's a message to women. Yes body hair is frowned upon and is considered a turn off. However you aren't held out gun point and forced to shave your legs, arms, underarms etc. Stop complaining. If you hate shaving, don't do it. Don't say your oppressed because you have to get rid of body hair, when it's your own choice. Also decide not to shave good for you. Don't think your making a huge feminist statement. Your doing it for yourself.

    daemonophile:

    wavefour:

    pastelprincessish:

    tikishades:

    disneyvillainsforjustice:

    FUCKING THANK YOU

    "I get funny looks because I have hairy armpits"is not oppression against women any more than my getting funny looks for wearing a sombrero covered in pink sequins is oppression.

    Jesus christ get over yourselves.

    -Jafar

    Friendly reminder that it can be more than funny looks, and having to shave to avoid public shaming and ridicule isn’t being FORCED to do anything, but it CAN be for someone’s mental health.

    No one is going to kill you for it, but having people treat you like shit because of how “poorly you take care of yourself” can be demeaning and very hurtful. Oppressed isn’t the right word for it, though.

    women are still expected to shave and such though, and that is a problem, and noting this doesn’t require comments such as “get over yourselves”. 

    There isn’t some dichotomy between “being held at gun point” and “perfectly okay”. There are a lot of toxic pressures of masculinity and femininity in our society, and individuals not being physically forced to follow the standards under threat of actual bodily harm doesn’t mean that these issues aren’t serious and important.

    Exactly. Body hair might not seem as much of an issue on its own but it’s still a part of gender roles. It’s indicative of a wider issue.

    I don’t particularly think not shaving is some big feminist statement either but women have every right to complain if people are coming up to them and being rude or nasty to them for how they choose to present themselves in a way that is totally harmless and nobody else’s business. I have no problems with people having preferences or opinions on others’ bodies as long as you don’t go out of your way to belittle somebody for it/force it on them, but the thing is, people still do it; they want to put women (and men) back in their little gender boxes where they think they belong, because that’s how we’re socialised, to conform to certain expectations, and that’s the point where it becomes a problem.