romantiv asked: Here's a message to women. Yes body hair is frowned upon and is considered a turn off. However you aren't held out gun point and forced to shave your legs, arms, underarms etc. Stop complaining. If you hate shaving, don't do it. Don't say your oppressed because you have to get rid of body hair, when it's your own choice. Also decide not to shave good for you. Don't think your making a huge feminist statement. Your doing it for yourself.
FUCKING THANK YOU
"I get funny looks because I have hairy armpits"is not oppression against women any more than my getting funny looks for wearing a sombrero covered in pink sequins is oppression.
Jesus christ get over yourselves.
Friendly reminder that it can be more than funny looks, and having to shave to avoid public shaming and ridicule isn’t being FORCED to do anything, but it CAN be for someone’s mental health.
No one is going to kill you for it, but having people treat you like shit because of how “poorly you take care of yourself” can be demeaning and very hurtful. Oppressed isn’t the right word for it, though.
women are still expected to shave and such though, and that is a problem, and noting this doesn’t require comments such as “get over yourselves”.
There isn’t some dichotomy between “being held at gun point” and “perfectly okay”. There are a lot of toxic pressures of masculinity and femininity in our society, and individuals not being physically forced to follow the standards under threat of actual bodily harm doesn’t mean that these issues aren’t serious and important.
Exactly. Body hair might not seem as much of an issue on its own but it’s still a part of gender roles. It’s indicative of a wider issue.
I don’t particularly think not shaving is some big feminist statement either but women have every right to complain if people are coming up to them and being rude or nasty to them for how they choose to present themselves in a way that is totally harmless and nobody else’s business. I have no problems with people having preferences or opinions on others’ bodies as long as you don’t go out of your way to belittle somebody for it/force it on them, but the thing is, people still do it; they want to put women (and men) back in their little gender boxes where they think they belong, because that’s how we’re socialised, to conform to certain expectations, and that’s the point where it becomes a problem.